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REBUILD YOUR LIFE AFTER DIVORCE OR BREAK UP Coaching

Depending on whether you did the leaving, were left or you came to a mutual decision you are experiencing a rollercoaster of consuming and often contradictory emotions as you transition into the next chapter of your life.

Possibly your divorce is very recent, maybe you are just negotiating your Separation Agreement and you are simply coping and trying to get through this challenging time, navigate all the decisions and choices that have to be made and you are feeling a bit in shock that this is your life now.

Quite possibly you are dealing with a tremendous amount of change from moving, setting up a new home or adapting to the old one without your ex, making big decisions when it comes to your children, the changes they are experiencing, the negotiation and agreement of the visitation schedule, maybe there is uncooperation with your ex and you are not able to proceed forward with a Separation Agreement.

And then there is the transition into being a single parent and the subsequent overwhelm and despair that can come from that experience. Possibly you feel guilt that your children no longer have a traditional family. And quite possibly there are times of great anger, even rage, hurt, disappointment and a feeling of unfairness that you even have to be going through this in the first place.

Then there are the moments you miss your ex, even though you don’t want them back, or maybe you still do, but at times you miss them because at least they/that life was familiar. This foreign land you are transversing now is scary. There are so many unknowns; how do I cope now? What is next? How will my future look? Will I ever love again? Who will love me now???

And there are financial questions to deal with as well; child support, spousal support, going from a two income family to a one income family or maybe a one income family to a no income family because your ex had the paying job outside the home and you had the non-paying job inside the home. So now you are also establishing a new career, taking on more hours or going back to school or all three as you deal with all the new ongoing changes.

Along with all the external changes you are also experiencing a tremendous amount of inner turmoil and consuming emotions.  Perhaps there is a running inner dialogue that you have failed or let people down – family, parents, siblings, friends, people who looked up to you, people who thought you had it all together. Then there are your friends and maybe family who feel like they have to choose sides or have chosen sides and you feel judged and betrayed and sad at losing them too. And although you don’t want to be, you are bothered by others un-informed or ill-informed opinions and judgments, you worry about what people may be thinking and saying, and you suspect there are some people who are taking pleasure from your pain. Possibly it is hard to know who to trust.

There is a lot of blame being cast about and many assumptions being made. Maybe you are doing the casting, maybe you are doing the wearing, quite possibly you are doing a little of both.  Things may be ugly, dramatic and chaotic. Perhaps there is someone else in the picture for you and you are feeling a tremendous amount of confusion even guilt.

Possibly your ex has already moved on and you are having a hard time coping with that. If you have children it can be particularly painful to think of that new person being around your children, you feel a loss of control and maybe even that you’ve simply been replaced; that you mattered so little to your ex that any other person could simply replace you. That maybe there was nothing special about you or what the two of you had in the first place.  And your heart hurts that your spot in your children’s life will now have to be shared or even replaced you worry, by someone else.

Perhaps it is even more complicated if abuse was a factor. And all of this is happening amidst lawyer and/or mediator meetings and even court dates. You had no idea it was going to be this consuming, complicated, challenging and difficult.

Possibly you have been divorced for a while but you are still struggling with it. Maybe there is ongoing drama with your ex, maybe you can’t get over the hurt or the loss of your relationship, maybe you are stuck in one of the five stages of grieving; denial, anger, bargaining, sadness (not necessarily in that order)and cannot get to acceptance to move on with your life.

Things will never be the way they were. And that is a good thing, even if you can’t see it now, because what you had wasn’t working, or it still would be. Your ‘old life’ is over, and it is now time to bring closure to it in order to begin the next chapter of your life.

This program will lead you through the healing process to a new-kind-of-normal, through the grieving, anger, hurt, loss, betrayal, the unforgiveness and the unknown to a new beginning in your life.

 This program will give you a fresh start to rebuild you life stronger, healthier and on your terms so that you can find a new kind of happiness, better than you can imagine for yourself at this moment. No one ever goes into a marriage or a relationship thinking it will end but the reality is more than half of these relationships will end.  It doesn’t have to mean the end of happiness for you, in fact it can be the beginning of a whole new happiness for you – the genuine, authentic kind that allows you to flourish truly as yourself to live a life that suits, fulfills and delights you.

This Program Is For You If:

  • You are overwhelmed by the process of divorce
  • You feel confused, defeated or hopeless
  • You feel numb, in shock and barely coping
  • Your heart is hurting
  • You are experiencing regret or grief – even if you were the one to make the call it was over
  • You are still stuck on your ex or your ex is able to get under your skin and upset you
  • There is an inner dialogue of doubt, shame or guilt
  • You are feeling like you failed
  • You are feeling like you let yourself, your family, your kids, your ex, everybody down
  • You are feeling lost and alone
  • You have children and need support navigating the transition into being a single parent
  • You miss being a ‘family’
  • You fear the future and all the unknowns ahead
  • You worry that you will be alone forever
  • You are stuck in anger, resentment or blame – toward your ex or yourself
  • You are healing from betrayal or infidelity
  • You have exhausted your friends with talk of your ex or your divorce
  • You have been unable to move on with your life
  • You are in deep regret over your relationship
  • You have not forgiven yourself for the choices you have made
  • Your life feels stuck in limbo – unable to go back to the way it was and not able to go forward either
  • You are exhausted from the change, the fight, the battle, the defending
  • You are ready for more peace
  • You are ready to take back your life

This is a nine session program completed over three months and includes:

  • Focused 55 minute private coaching sessions
  • Between session self-work and supportive healing assignments
  • Private email access to me during office hours throughout the duration of your program
  • Additional support materials and recommendations to supplement your progress

This program is $1150 (three payment option of $400)

To ensure the highest quality of one-to-one support and coaching I only work with nine private clients at a time. To apply to work with me privately please EMAIL ME HERE.

Once I have received your email I will be in touch with you within one to two business days. If all one-to-one private coaching spots are currently filled you will get the option of securing the next available opening or joining the “first to know” list to be notified if a spot becomes available.

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Complimentary Coaching Consult

If you have not worked with me before I recommend an initial coaching consult.

This is a no-fee 30 minute complimentary coaching phone consult in which you bring your questions, queries and challenges and I apply focused coaching techniques to bring clarity to your situation, uncover struggle and identify blocks to your fulfillment so that you can leave the session with renewed clarity for your next best steps.

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