Has change or loss left you feeling stuck in the limbo of uncertainty?
The end of a relationship, the loss of a job or a loved one has brought the end of a chapter in your life and you’re not entirely sure what’s next for you. You’re in the land of NO LONGER & NOT YET where your life is NO LONGER what it was, but NOT YET what it is going to become. And this limbo feels uncomfortable, even scary.
We’re a culture that likes certainty; we like to feel like we’re in control of our future. We aren’t. But the illusion of thinking we’re in control makes us feel comfortable and safe. And along with being loved, we’re ALL striving to feel comfortable and safe. Always.
It’s the hanging on to the familiar way things were with white knuckles that is painful. Staying in the relationship or the job longer than is good for you or attempting to replace what has been lost with another relationship or similar situation. This keeps you stuck, clutching on to what was but is no longer and you’re life cannot move forward.
Your future is NOT in your past. What is next for you will not be found there. Relief comes when you are willing to let the past be, tuck the lessons and the memories under your arm, turn and lean into the uncertainty, also known as “the future” by challenging the belief that UNCERTAINTY = UNSAFE.
What you’ll find is that UNCERTAINTY = EVERY GOOD THING YOU HAVEN’T EXPERIENCED YET IS NOW POSSIBLE and instead of being in no man’s land you’re on a bridge to getting there. And the safest and most comfortable thing to do is to keep walking using steps of faith and curiosity, the guardrails of belief and trust and your intuition as your GPS.